If you are not scared you are not taking a chance?

I went out to the local bars last night with Shy guy and friends.  I was dancing with one friend when it became noticeable that a girl across the room was looking at me with eyes that could wound more than the sharpest dagger.  I didn't know this girl, was wearing nothing that was provocative and doing nothing other than dancing but still her dirty looks and obvious whispering about me to her friends leaned toward her having a problem with me.

At first I thought I was being paranoid but no, her actions had been noted by others.  I am such a total wuss and hate confrontation of any kind and also get upset at the thought that people don't like me or that I am not good enough..  I so wish I was more like this and could adopt a 'f' you' approach:



My best friend once said that being scared is a way of letting you know that you are on to something important - if you are not scared then you are not taking a chance, and if you are not taking a chance - what the hell are you doing?  She was on about bagging the guy but  I thought of what she said and tried to adopt it to my situation - I wasn't scared but then I wasn't comfortable so what was the 'important' bit and what was I taking a chance on?  Well I wasn't going to take a chance on playing the opponent in a girlie battle that was for sure and I certainly didn't feel important, the opposite in fact.  I sometimes think that some sayings that are passed down to us are pointless - a party of words designed to make us feel better but actually really prove no purpose at all.

I decided to take a chance on being safe and left the bar and I guess being onto something important - I had a lesson in not everyone is nice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!